Comments for The Sean Costello Memorial Fund Blog http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog by Debbie Costello Smith Sat, 10 Jul 2010 12:41:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on It’s Never The Day by John Ali http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154&cpage=1#comment-2069 John Ali Sat, 10 Jul 2010 12:41:54 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154#comment-2069 anxiety and depression are hard to treat if the patient has not been checked for years.';" anxiety and depression are hard to treat if the patient has not been checked for years.’;”

]]> Comment on From Mother to Son by joni rescigno http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=186&cpage=1#comment-2057 joni rescigno Sat, 10 Jul 2010 03:02:41 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=186#comment-2057 So beautifully written, saying everything I also feel. Ian is also buried beside my Mom and Dad whom he loved with all his heart. Thank you for expressing what I didn't know how to say, for Sean from you, and to Ian, from me. With all my love, Joan Harper Rescigno So beautifully written, saying everything I also feel. Ian is also buried beside my Mom and Dad whom he loved with all his heart.

Thank you for expressing what I didn’t know how to say, for Sean from you, and to Ian, from me.

With all my love,

Joan Harper Rescigno

]]> Comment on High Anxiety by Tommy B. http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=184&cpage=1#comment-2041 Tommy B. Fri, 09 Jul 2010 01:22:56 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=184#comment-2041 Thanks for the Moodtracker link, that's a very helpful site. And you are also correct about the Klonopin and Zanax, a person close to me had worsened depression symtoms and severe social anxiety by taking them. The same with Neurontin, an anti-seizure medication which was prescribed for Borderline Personality Disorder. This person was hospitalized for severe anxiety attacks from these drugs. She now only uses behavioral therapy and the results are quite promising. Thanks for what you do. Thanks for the Moodtracker link, that’s a very helpful site. And you are also correct about the Klonopin and Zanax, a person close to me had worsened depression symtoms and severe social anxiety by taking them. The same with Neurontin, an anti-seizure medication which was prescribed for Borderline Personality Disorder. This person was hospitalized for severe anxiety attacks from these drugs. She now only uses behavioral therapy and the results are quite promising. Thanks for what you do.

]]> Comment on And so this is Christmas by admin http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166&cpage=1#comment-1441 admin Fri, 14 May 2010 11:51:11 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166#comment-1441 Thank you. Thank you.

]]> Comment on And so this is Christmas by Benji http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166&cpage=1#comment-1439 Benji Fri, 14 May 2010 09:37:22 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166#comment-1439 "The two are ultimately connected, as they convey the value that we place on life and experience." I love that sentence. It reminds me of what I thought when I heard the UFO lyric,"If this is love, I'm sleeping on a bed of nails". I felt it was quite apt, although some people would find it a very bitter assessment, but the truth is, if you really care about someone and that person goes away, the more you cared about that person the more it hurts. I'm sorry to hear you recently lost your mother as well. My grandmother (of 94) recently had a stroke; she is faring better now, but she's not been getting better of the years. I hope she stays in there for yet a while longer, but if she passes, I know that my family will remember her for the incredibly sweet and attentive, self-effacing person she has been. What we will remember is the love she gave to her children and grandchildren, and the love and devotion to her husband when he was still alive. She always means well and that's something we'll remember, and from what I pick up of what you say, Sean didn't seem to be much different. I'll stop rambling on this page, I just want to leave on the note that this is the rare blog that actually has something to say, so well done with that! “The two are ultimately connected, as they convey the value that we place on life and experience.” I love that sentence. It reminds me of what I thought when I heard the UFO lyric,”If this is love, I’m sleeping on a bed of nails”. I felt it was quite apt, although some people would find it a very bitter assessment, but the truth is, if you really care about someone and that person goes away, the more you cared about that person the more it hurts. I’m sorry to hear you recently lost your mother as well. My grandmother (of 94) recently had a stroke; she is faring better now, but she’s not been getting better of the years. I hope she stays in there for yet a while longer, but if she passes, I know that my family will remember her for the incredibly sweet and attentive, self-effacing person she has been. What we will remember is the love she gave to her children and grandchildren, and the love and devotion to her husband when he was still alive. She always means well and that’s something we’ll remember, and from what I pick up of what you say, Sean didn’t seem to be much different. I’ll stop rambling on this page, I just want to leave on the note that this is the rare blog that actually has something to say, so well done with that!

]]> Comment on And so this is Christmas by admin http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166&cpage=1#comment-1437 admin Fri, 14 May 2010 00:22:50 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166#comment-1437 I, of course agree with your perspective of the authenticity of Sean's words. I am in awe of his ability to convey emotion both through his words and instrument. To be compared to him at all is a compliment to me (one which he would quickly eschew, I think :) I do think he wouldn't mind your assessment of a Beatle's tune though, who could? As to the cultural differences, I am dismayed at every turn about how we handle both aging and death. The two are ultimately connected, as they convey the value that we place on life and experience. In our culture, there doesn't seem to be the recognition of the wisdom that comes with experience, nor the respect that is due to elders. If we do not value the lessons of a person's life, how then can we honor the person after death? In the past two years, I have lost my mother and my son and have witnessed the awkwardness of the aftermath. In Sean's case, I am somewhat blessed, as he has left a legacy that people can relate to: his music. In my Mom's case, it was quite different. She was nearly eighty and needed a lot of attention and care. What she collected in her life that she deemed important to her - markers of her achievements - were easily discarded as being non valuable. What she gave to her children is frequently overshadowed by what she was unable to give. I fear that we are a society of immediacy, here and now. Sean was not at all that way, He had great respect for the people who came before him in the Blues and endeavored to share their history. I wonder, what is the value of life if we do not observe customs for honoring the loss of that life? I think that Sean and I might have been born into the wrong world at times. Thank you for sharing the fact that this our culture's view is not prescriptive, rather a choice. As to finding a cure for bipolar disorder, I'm sure that i might hear about it, but please let me know just in case I miss the news :) I would be happy with just one additional psychologist committed to learning all that they can about effective intervention and support. Good luck in your studies. I, of course agree with your perspective of the authenticity of Sean’s words. I am in awe of his ability to convey emotion both through his words and instrument. To be compared to him at all is a compliment to me (one which he would quickly eschew, I think :) I do think he wouldn’t mind your assessment of a Beatle’s tune though, who could?

As to the cultural differences, I am dismayed at every turn about how we handle both aging and death. The two are ultimately connected, as they convey the value that we place on life and experience. In our culture, there doesn’t seem to be the recognition of the wisdom that comes with experience, nor the respect that is due to elders. If we do not value the lessons of a person’s life, how then can we honor the person after death?

In the past two years, I have lost my mother and my son and have witnessed the awkwardness of the aftermath. In Sean’s case, I am somewhat blessed, as he has left a legacy that people can relate to: his music. In my Mom’s case, it was quite different. She was nearly eighty and needed a lot of attention and care. What she collected in her life that she deemed important to her – markers of her achievements – were easily discarded as being non valuable. What she gave to her children is frequently overshadowed by what she was unable to give. I fear that we are a society of immediacy, here and now. Sean was not at all that way, He had great respect for the people who came before him in the Blues and endeavored to share their history. I wonder, what is the value of life if we do not observe customs for honoring the loss of that life? I think that Sean and I might have been born into the wrong world at times. Thank you for sharing the fact that this our culture’s view is not prescriptive, rather a choice.

As to finding a cure for bipolar disorder, I’m sure that i might hear about it, but please let me know just in case I miss the news :) I would be happy with just one additional psychologist committed to learning all that they can about effective intervention and support. Good luck in your studies.

]]> Comment on It’s Never The Day by admin http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154&cpage=1#comment-1436 admin Fri, 14 May 2010 00:01:24 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154#comment-1436 I believe that I understand what you are saying; however, I would prefer altering the sentiment to " if you have clinical depression, you feel like you have nothing." I think it's important to understand that when someone is depressed, their brain is sending them erroneous messages. Everyone is valuable/something, and in fact, probably have a lot more than they can see when their vision is clouded by the din of depression. One must never believe that they are nothing, for it is a contradiction of nature. What we feel and what is are often at odds. The resolution of this imbalance is the work that must be undertaken to lift the veil of depression. undertaken to be able to recover. I believe that I understand what you are saying; however, I would prefer altering the sentiment to ” if you have clinical depression, you feel like you have nothing.” I think it’s important to understand that when someone is depressed, their brain is sending them erroneous messages. Everyone is valuable/something, and in fact, probably have a lot more than they can see when their vision is clouded by the din of depression. One must never believe that they are nothing, for it is a contradiction of nature. What we feel and what is are often at odds. The resolution of this imbalance is the work that must be undertaken to lift the veil of depression.
undertaken to be able to recover.

]]> Comment on And so this is Christmas by Benji http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166&cpage=1#comment-1434 Benji Thu, 13 May 2010 21:32:31 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=166#comment-1434 The reason I read this blog was because google highlighted the sentence 'the lyrics are so simple, yet, as most of his lyrics were, so to the point', and thought it was about Sean's writing. It always amazes me how to the point his lyrics are, although I don't think they're as simple as John Lennon's Happy Christmas. Usually I don't feel anything listening to the lyrics of songs. Once every so often there is one song of a band's full repertoire that means something to me. The notable exception is Sean, whose lyrics are so heartfelt and to the point, they are either so apt and familiar (don't pass me by, anytime you want, I want you so bad, take it easy), or they're about a situation I'm unfamiliar with, yet the way he describes it it feels as if I've experienced it myself (e.g., Told me a lie). It sounds melodramatic, but it's genuinely true. Reading "So, in order to socialize as little as I do, I put on that happy face. Are my eyes the same? Does the smile seem genuine? I can’t tell because I am severed from myself to some extent. Like a paper doll, a hologram of myself trying to be productive, normal." it seems like he got some of that from you, 'cause that bit's nearly poetry. About people losing patience with someone grieving for more than a year. I trust your councellor has informed you of the differences in grieving between cultures? The norm in Western cultures is to break emotional bonds with dead loved ones after a period of time; people who don't are judged abnormal. In Japan, in contrast, maintaining these bonds with deceased loved ones is prescribed. In Egypt, the bereaved are encouraged to dwell profusely on their grief, and other people support them by recounting their own losses and openly expressing their sorrow in emotional outpourings (quote from a clinical psychology book). My point is, take however long you want. People, in my opinion, are not meant to outlive their children, and I really hope I'll never be put in your position. I think it should never stop hurting, although I hope it has become bearable for you. Also, I study psychology, and if I'm ever to stumble upon a cure for Bipolar disorder, I'll be sure to let you know;). I wish you good luck with the foundation! The reason I read this blog was because google highlighted the sentence ‘the lyrics are so simple, yet, as most of his lyrics were, so to the point’, and thought it was about Sean’s writing. It always amazes me how to the point his lyrics are, although I don’t think they’re as simple as John Lennon’s Happy Christmas. Usually I don’t feel anything listening to the lyrics of songs. Once every so often there is one song of a band’s full repertoire that means something to me. The notable exception is Sean, whose lyrics are so heartfelt and to the point, they are either so apt and familiar (don’t pass me by, anytime you want, I want you so bad, take it easy), or they’re about a situation I’m unfamiliar with, yet the way he describes it it feels as if I’ve experienced it myself (e.g., Told me a lie). It sounds melodramatic, but it’s genuinely true.
Reading “So, in order to socialize as little as I do, I put on that happy face. Are my eyes the same? Does the smile seem genuine? I can’t tell because I am severed from myself to some extent. Like a paper doll, a hologram of myself trying to be productive, normal.” it seems like he got some of that from you, ’cause that bit’s nearly poetry.
About people losing patience with someone grieving for more than a year. I trust your councellor has informed you of the differences in grieving between cultures? The norm in Western cultures is to break emotional bonds with dead loved ones after a period of time; people who don’t are judged abnormal. In Japan, in contrast, maintaining these bonds with deceased loved ones is prescribed. In Egypt, the bereaved are encouraged to dwell profusely on their grief, and other people support them by recounting their own losses and openly expressing their sorrow in emotional outpourings (quote from a clinical psychology book). My point is, take however long you want. People, in my opinion, are not meant to outlive their children, and I really hope I’ll never be put in your position. I think it should never stop hurting, although I hope it has become bearable for you.
Also, I study psychology, and if I’m ever to stumble upon a cure for Bipolar disorder, I’ll be sure to let you know;). I wish you good luck with the foundation!

]]> Comment on It’s Never The Day by Callum Harris http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154&cpage=1#comment-1326 Callum Harris Sat, 01 May 2010 14:03:42 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=154#comment-1326 Anxiety and depression is one hell of a nasty disease. even if you have everything but if you have clinical depression, you are still nothing.'*- Anxiety and depression is one hell of a nasty disease. even if you have everything but if you have clinical depression, you are still nothing.’*-

]]> Comment on What Are We Doing Now? by admin http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=178&cpage=1#comment-1231 admin Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:01:59 +0000 http://www.seancostellofund.org/blog/?p=178#comment-1231 I am very glad that we got to know each other briefly. You should be very proud of what you are doing and have already accomplished. I would love to come and see your home and will try to make time in the near future. The next month is pretty crazy, but soon thereafter, I'll take you up on your offer. Good luck and take care. Deb I am very glad that we got to know each other briefly. You should be very proud of what you are doing and have already accomplished. I would love to come and see your home and will try to make time in the near future. The next month is pretty crazy, but soon thereafter, I’ll take you up on your offer. Good luck and take care.

Deb

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